I registered daddydifference.com back on August 15th of 2010 with this idea to encourage/motivate dads to make a difference in the lives of their children. I started out with the tagline, “One Dad + One Child = A Chance To Make A World Of Difference.”
After the heartache of two miscarriages in a row that you can read about here and here, it’s finally time to update the tagline! Our LONG-AWAITED daughter, Autumn Reese, arrived this past Wednesday evening! It still seems a bit surreal that she’s here after such a long wait, but we’re so thankful that God blessed us with her.
This pregnancy was a lot of work for us. Ashley struggled with gestational diabetes, but thankfully she was able to control it through diet, exercise and a couple of other tricks our awesome midwife had up her sleeve. Speaking of a midwife, after Skyler’s birth in a birthing center with a midwife we opted to try a home birth this time, and we loved it! We would highly recommend others finding a great midwife, and delivering at home.
I’m sure that I’ll have more to share later, but in the meantime, if you’ve got any ideas on a new tagline for the blog let me know. I’ve posted some pictures on Facebook of the new little one, and our expanding family.
Here I sit at the kitchen table on a Monday afternoon holding Skyler on my lap. We just finished watching The Afters music video, Life Is Beautiful. As we were watching the video Skyler reaches around, takes my hand and pulls it around him. THESE are the times that I realize Life Is Beautiful!!
We’ve been through a LOT of changes in the past few months, and thanks to Darrin Greene‘s urging I’m no longer even going to give an expectation for when I’ll post again. Life is busy, and I don’t want to be pulled away from life to meet a self-imposed deadline. I enjoy blogging here, and I hope that it encourages someone; however, ultimately my family comes before this. With all of that said, if you want to make sure that you don’t miss posts in the future (whenever they may come out) please sign up here so that you can get them via email.
I’ve promised in my last post or two to talk more about the changes we’ve been through, and this is that post. I first want to say that I solely blame this on my friend, Joshua Gordon (I’m sure that he won’t mind accepting responsibility). About 90 days ago we made some HUGE changes that were initially sparked by a conversation that I had with Josh…by-the-way Josh, I don’t think Ashley’s mad at you any more.
Within about 45 days we did the following:
Listed our house for sale
Sold a lot of our stuff
Sold our house
Became TOTALLY debt free…WOOT!
Moved from a house into an apartment
Quit my job of 10+ years
Spent some time with some great friends that we’d met online
Started down a new career path
Those of you who are normal are probably now thinking that we fell off the “deep end,” but we didn’t. We had realized that the life we were living was not the one that we wanted to live. I was working a lot of hours, wasn’t home much, was majorly stressed out when I was home, and we were just DONE!
The biggest realizations that we came to were that a decent income and a house do not make your life. What good are those things if you’re miserable?! So we ditched them both.
Here we sit 90 days later and less than tw0 months from welcoming our little girl into this world, and we have a lot of time that we can spend together as a family. We’re able to do things that we just couldn’t do before. Sure we don’t have a house with our own back yard, but there are plenty of other things that we can do. Sure we may not have as good of an income, but we have more time! Life is still pretty busy because we’re getting ready for the baby, and trying to finish settling into a smaller home. But those things were expected.
As a father, time is something that I want to be able to have with my family as they’re growing up. We’ve now made enough changes in our life that we’re being able to dream more about the future, and how we really want to raise our family.
On the “Life Is Beautiful” note, that’s something that we definitely get to see more of now, and after two miscarriages we’re praying for our little baby girl to arrive safely so that we can see some more beautiful things in life with her.